So things have been moving right along for me these past few weeks. Been very busy. I got approved for my new apartment and I move in on Valentines Day. That will be my present to myself. Work has been picking up and I'm staying very busy. But now I have hit a bump.
I had contacted my ex and told him when I was moving out so he could come and get his final things he left behind. When I spoke to him on the phone, all my emotions came flooding back and I cried for days after, missing him. After a few days, I texted him and told him I could no longer speak to him, as he wants to remain friends, or see him. He then texted me back saying he understood, but didn't want that to happen.
Would I be the fool to remain his friend, maybe more than friends, knowing what I know about why he left? Is it possible to get over something like that? Am I setting myself up for disaster? There are times I feel absolutely nothing for him but anger, which leads me to believe I could do only the friend thing and then times I miss the love and laughter we made together. Feely stupid and confused right now.
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ReplyDeleteWhat a tough spot to be in. I believe at some point you could become his friend. However, I think that (right now) you have to become emotionally stable to be able to handle that type of relationship with him. Naturally, when you really love or care for someone, it can be quite challenging when you have to let go. But, you can do it!
ReplyDeleteYou are in a difficult spot at the moment. Any matter that involves the heart is tricky. Take the time to heal your emotional scars and the friendship will be easier to accept.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Prof. Beard and Anthony. You need to take time to heal and become emotional stable. Once that happens I think you will be able to become friends but it has to be only when you are ready.
ReplyDeleteI say you should remain his friend with minimum contact. The ex will always try to find a way back!!! And plus, you don't want to give him to wrong idea.
ReplyDeleteI've have totally been in that situation and I can relate to you 100%. First off your not stupid, confused yes, stupid no lol. However you have to treat this like an addiction cold turkey girl because in a way that is what you are addicted this person. I get the anger thing because you are hurt. Its kind of in a way like mourning and you are in the anger phase. Look up the video online called the 7 stages of grief Giraffe. You will get a good laugh. Anyways at the end of the day the only thing that I can say that holds any weight is that only time heals all wounds. So just try and focus on something else for the meantime. Your new apartment, all the new experiences your going to have, and the people you are going to meet. I was in your shoes and can say that as I look back I don't regret having been with that person but I would never in a million years go back with all that I now know..
ReplyDeleteI agree with Brittney that it is better to remain with minimum contact, you need to heal and get things straight up.
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